On Being Successful

I’ve been thinking about what it means to define success in life.

There are chapters in life where you are encouraged, or somewhat forced, to assess your priorities and take stock of where you’re at and how you feel you’re tracking against your goals and dreams. 

Any time that includes huge change, huge challenge, humility, grace and courage will do this - and we all went through it in 2020, and we all have our experiences and stories that define us, almost periodically where we know there is the before and the after version of you. 

No surprises that this is on my mind - I write this at the end of the calendar year, at the end of my maternity leave after welcoming my twins earlier this year - and it is front and centre of my consciousness that EVERYTHING has changed. 

The end of this year also marks ten years since my beloved Dad passed away. Another time in my life where everything suddenly changed. 

Because after these sorts of experiences, from which non of us are immune, we can feel utterly discombobulated and disconnected from ourselves. 

I feel that right now. My awareness of being in some sort of free fall is visceral. Not only because of all the usual tropes - lack of sleep, hormonal changes, the relentlessness of caring for 2 humans (and the rest of my life, and myself) etc etc etc

Its like I am floating above the landscape of my life and watching as pieces I recognise, and some I don’t slowly float down from above and plant themselves in a new way. 

The foundation is the same, but how it shows up is entirely different. 

What hasn’t changed, interestingly, is my sense of ambition and drive. I am at my happiest when I am doing the things, with a full life, and feeling purposeful. In the past year, my ambition has evolved to make room for motherhood - I pour so much of myself every day into the act of caring for and raising my babies. 

And, I still have big dreams and goals for myself. I want to build an amazing business, I want to serve amazing people and do work that helps and inspires and lifts people up. 

But honestly, I have to ask myself - WHAT NOW? 

As we slide towards the end of 2024, I find myself wanting to create space to ask some key questions. 

As I pose them to myself, I pose them to you.

What does a successful life look like TO YOU?

What does a successful YOU look like to you? 

Have you spent any time recently imagining what the answer to those questions is? 

I have, despite being shrouded in a fog of broken sleep most days. It's important to me to really connect to the version of me that I want to create. ESPECIALLY now. 

So where to start? Well…

To start moving confidently in the direction of your dreams, you need to start with a bit of imagination. 

Try it!! It's fun! Next time you find yourself with a gap of time (shout out to all my busy people who just eye rolled and lol’d at that as a concept…!! Don’t immediately fill it with a scroll, a podcast or a book.

Go old school and have a bit of a daydream. 

Imagine your life exactly as you hope it will be, how you want it to be, in 1-2 years. Or, if you want to go HUGE - 10 years. 

What is happening for you? What are you doing? Who are you with? How do you feel? 

When you’ve got that clear picture, consider this question - who am I then, in the most successful version of my life? 

What is important to me, what isn’t, how do I live day to day, what do I spend my time on? How do I show up for myself? For my family? For my partner? For my team? What do I worry about? What do I no longer worry about? What habits have I left behind? 

In the busyness of life, our obligations, expectations and general to-do list, we can *blink* and arrive at our life 12 months later thinking….how did I get here? 

This is exactly why it's important to connect with yourself, with your inner Fierce, and to make a regular habit of doing so. 

How your inner confidence shows up might change and shift as life unfolds, but it will always be there to guide you. 

It's up to YOU to cultivate the habit and the trust in it to really access that power and guidance. 

Success for me right now? Staying healthy and grounded, drinking more water than coffee and being kind to myself. 

Success for me in Q1 of 2025? Stay tuned to find out. Spoiler alert - its fucking Fierce.

Thank you for reading, I am so grateful that you’re here. 

Heather x