Remember who you are.
There’s nothing quite like a complete life upheaval to leave you feeling utterly at sea sometimes.
When everything is different, and you feel like you’re taking one step forward and 2 steps backwards, and you’re tired and you need a hug…
(is it just me?)
It can feel like life is a tumble dryer and you’re stuck in the drum being battered around, too much happening to think about how to make it stop.
There are times when all you can do is breathe deep, stand back up, and start again.
But after a few of these, I find myself taking a long look in the mirror and asking - what gives?!
And every time, without fail, the lightbulb moment arrives again - it's me, hi, I’m the problem, it's me. There is a crashing realisation that I have been operating from a place of disempowerment and operating from that place has created a self fulfilling prophecy of more angst, and more disempowerment.
This happened again recently, which is no surprise as I am right on the cusp of re-launching my business after maternity leave and there are a lot of elements to being a ‘working mum’ (hey, cool, I’m a working Mum now!) that I haven’t figured out yet.
Its not just the logistics (but OMG the logistics!), the time (THE LACK OF TIME!), the whole newness of juggling everything when I’m already at capacity most of the time (THE JUGGLE IS REAL, BELIEVE THE HYPE!!)
Sorry, I’ll calm down.
All the questions have been going around - Am I offering something of value? Can and do my clients get the results they want? Am stillI a good quality coach, consultant and speaker? Does anyone actually want to read my emails or engage with my content?
And right alongside all of this is an old, familiar, toxic friend.
Fear about money. And, because money is a physical and energetic manifestation of the value we decide we have in the world, I have found myself stuck in a feeling that there wasn’t enough - that I may not be enough anymore.
But here’s the thing - money is just like everything in life. It reflects back to us and responds to our energies….how we feel about ourselves and our value in the world.
Think about it - if you’re going for an interview, or retraining, starting a business, negotiating on a project or a big purchase - your vibes about yourself and your power within that situation will dictate EVERYTHING.
If you’re operating from a place of ‘this is exactly what I am meant to do, where I am meant to be, I believe in myself and I am really excited to be on this journey’ (or words to that effect), then that is what you will experience.
If you’re operating from a place of ‘I might get rejected, I don’t deserve this, they are better than me, I have no value, I need someone else's permission to go to the next level’ (or words to that effect), then that is what you will experience.
It comes down to this - you have to choose to be in your power.
Choosing to operate from personal empowerment and self belief totally changes the game.
So how do you go from uncertainty to certainty? From self doubt to self belief? From fear, to fierce?
It's not about bravado. You can’t force yourself into standing in your power and claiming what you want.
You have to *feel* it, *know* it is for you and therefore is actually already yours - live and act from that place already and there you go.
When you can master this - it will arrive for you. Every single time.
Let me explain how this played out for me…
Last week I realised that I had been driving myself crazy in a loop of worry and lack and disempowerment.
My first response to this realisation was defensive, annoyed at myself. I jumped straight into an inflated version of the ambitious, powerful woman I am. I felt on edge, snappy, stressed.
These feelings are so helpful - they showed me that I STILL wasn’t operating in my power, I was pretending too to try and force the fear out with bravado and aggression instead. That doesn’t work, doesn’t last. In fact, it brings the vibe down even more and will push money, opportunities and impact even further away.
*sigh* this stuff is relentless sometimes.
So what to do? How do you get your power back when you realise you’ve been giving it away?
Here are some ideas which may be helpful…
Take a look at the content you’re consuming. Is it elevating you? Serving you? Making you feel better and more empowered? (or is it dragging you into comparison and making you feel like you’re not doing / being enough?)
Process your resistance and fear - ask yourself what's really behind the more challenging or negative feelings that are coming up. Is it about the situation itself or a belief you have about it?
Go within - take yourself away from external distractions and be with yourself for a bit. Walk, meditate, put on your favourite music and dance, have a bath. Whatever feels good for you. Create some space to allow your feelings to settle, and clarity will come.
Remember who the f*ck you are - seriously. You are the only one who is you, who is being and doing what you are being and doing, and there is infinite power in acknowledging that. Remember that you are the demonstration of the value you think you have in the world. Own that.
Does this resonate with you?
Would you like more insights on personal empowerment and standing in your power?
Let me know!
Thank you for reading, I am so grateful that you’re here.
Heather x
