To be a Powerhouse
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel completely powerless?
Overwhelmed, somehow, at the total lack of control you have over what's happening?
When the visceral feeling of shock - sudden, or creeping up slowly, makes you feel sick and spinning.
Its one of my least favourite experiences in the plethora of human experiences.
It SUCKS.
There are so many examples of what life can throw at you, to make you feel powerless.And often, it's the big BIG stuff that comes with it - loss, grief, tragedy, seismic change in all its forms. We’re not just talking about the fleeting disappointment when your favourite coffee shop closes down or your work bestie resigns for pastures new.
We’re talking about the times in life where you mark a ‘before’ and ‘after’ for yourself. There was me ‘before’ this experience, and there is me ‘after’. In hindsight you might find positives, or you might only look back and shudder. A spectrum of experiences and reflections - but always, always, life altering.
Examples from my life include the death of my beloved Dad, various experiences in and around my times living away from home in some of the world's most impressive cities - New York, Hong Kong and Sydney. The slow, torturous romantic relationship with a complete narcissist that lingered about 18 months longer than I should have allowed. A particular events job in London in 2012 that almost hospitalised me from stress. And, of course, my journey into motherhood, of twins, almost one year ago.
What are your defining moments in the story of your life?
And, more importantly - how are you letting them influence you now?
If our fundamental purpose in this life is to experience things, learn, and evolve - it's fair to say that the experience itself is not the most important thing. The most important thing is what you do with it.
Everything we go through, shapes us into who we are. We absorb these lessons and build ourselves into, around and on top of them. Its a constant co-creation, even the really really difficult things.
I believe that life unfolds with divine timing, in a perfect order and sequence that is totally unique for us and our path this lifetime. And I believe that everything that gets thrown at us is making us stronger, and is an opportunity to connect more deeply with ourselves and the greater vision for our life.
Think about it - what have you gone through that has made you stronger? Taught you things that you now carry forward as deep wisdom, or immovable boundaries that will never be crossed again?
Every battle scar, every skill you have developed, every never again, every leap forward - all of it makes up your unique inner power, your story and your gifts,
To live a life, we must experience LIFE. And when we take the good, the bad, and the ugly, and we learn, grow and create from it we alchemise it into POWER.
When you know who you are and can stand strong in that knowledge no matter how the storm rages around you - you are a powerhouse.
Your experiences don’t define you, they help to create you. If you are in the thick of it right now and can’t see the wood for the trees, hang on in there and trust that the intensity will pass and things will reach an equilibrium again, sooner than you think.
And in the meantime, remember that you have survived the hardest of days in your life so far, that you have always been provided for and that you did not make it this far, to only make it this far.
Lean into the version of you who has already learned the lesson and stood up stronger - let her, your powerhouse self, guide you through.
Thank you for reading and see you next time!
Heather x
